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Guilt Over Adopting

Monday, June 2nd, 2008

Most, if not all, moms feel guilty about one thing or another. It’s just the way we are. As an adoptive mom, though, I have felt more than just the typical mom guilt. I go through periods of guilt for adopting Lucas and for proceeding with adoptions for Rhett and Claudia.

All three of them have living mothers. All were relinquished by their mothers to their respective orphanages for the express purpose of adoption. All listed their reasons as extreme poverty. Were it not for the unrelenting lack of food and resources, would they have continued to raise their children themselves? (more…)

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I Am Not a Saint

Wednesday, May 28th, 2008

Let me set the record straight . . .

I am not a saint!

As soon as people learn that Lucas was born in another country or that we adopted him at 5 years old or that we are adopting again in Haiti, more often than not, they launch into a spiel about my husband and I being saints and how fortunate our children are that we adopted them. (more…)

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Parenting after Adoption explores the unique, and often complex, experiences of parents raising children affected by adoption. Rebecca will share her experiences and insights as an adoptive mother raising children who were adopted and children who were born to her. She will discuss a wide variety of topics that include, but are not limited to: trauma, loss and grief; relationships with first families; inter-country, domestic, trans-racial and trans-cultural adoption; adopting siblings and siblings separated by adoption; language, development, school and much more.

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